RELATIONSHIP: SHOULD THERE BE ROOM FOR YOUR EX?

I have been seeing a lot of people seemingly having trouble with their relationships. Not the ones they are currently in, but with their ex.

Now, many people are divided on this subject. On one side are people who believe they can have a monogamous relationship while still remaining close with their former lovers. On the other side are the people who believe this will only cause future problems in a serious relationship. 

I'd say that whether there is or no room for your ex in your current relationship depends on the individuality, tolerance and acceptance level of your lover.

If your lover is the insecure, attention demanding and suspicious type, it is best for you to cut all connections with all your former lovers, crushes included. If you are lucky enough to have a cool, trusting lover who doesn't check for girls/guys' numbers in your mobile phone, monitor your activity in Facebook and check how many girls/guys are there in your friends list and question you why did you like or comment on girls/guys who are better looking than them, you may make room for your ex but don't over do it because possessiveness is the first rule in a love relationship.

If your lover is the tolerant type, you may still keep contact with your ex. But, just because he/she is tolerant, doesn't mean you can talk to your ex on the phone in front of your lover more than an hour, tell him/her about your previous romance and how did you break up, wish your ex happy birthday in front of your now gf/bf and talking about the good things of your ex. Your lover is only tolerating you being in touch with your ex, not supporting it and if you do the stuff I listed above, that tolerance will wane and you will become the ex for your current lover.

If your lover is the I-accept-every-shit-you-did-doing-and-will-do you should marry him or her for they are as rare as the abominable snowman. (Yes, I am being sarcastic) If you are lucky enough to get a lover who talks to your ex for over an hour, wishes your ex happy birthday, tells your ex how lucky she/he is to have you and thanking your ex for dumping you which made him/her have you, you really should marry him or her at the soonest!!

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