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Most of the emotional drama in your life is created because we look at and interpret things from the point of view of Inner Judge or Victim.
The victim point of view is generally of fear, low self esteem and powerlessness. Judgment is generally from a point of view of being “right”, ego, and involves criticism. Sometimes the Judgment couples with the Victim and things become twice as painful!
Before you can effectively change a belief, you need to step outside the voice inside your head and become neutral. If you don't, these two voices will comment with criticism. As you dissolve the false beliefs and the associated fear, you no longer make decisions out of judgment and victimization reactions.
In the beginning, this may be unfamiliar as you no longer have the voice in your head telling you what you should do. Your options expand as you have more time to clearly consider choices. You will learn to weigh other people’s opinions as just that, opinions.
Why should you be offended if people judge you that you are the person that you know that you are not? First stop thinking yourself as the Victim of the Judgment. No one knows you better than you. Self realization is crucial - you cannot move forward if you keep turning back to throw stones at people who detract you. Treat such criticism as an external voice; never let it get into your psyche. You are the only one who can decide whether to let yourself be offended or not - kill that external voice with your silence. Your 'judges' will waver, fade and go away sooner or later.
You can now make choices based in what will make you happy. Your criteria can become what is kind, and what is loving to yourself and others. Being happy becomes simple and easy again the same as when we were children. Except that with awareness we are no longer naive, we are wise. We choose to express ourselves with love, gratitude, and respect as a conscious choice. In this way, we create happiness in our lives and our relationships.
You don't need others to be happy. Happiness is created by YOU for YOU. A rich man can be depressed in his mansion and a poor man can be happy in his hut.
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