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There is a disturbing trend among adolescent Indian boys and girls in Malaysia and it is literally unknown to the adults.
What happens is, a boy couples up with a girl - girl dumps him - boy seeks revenge. Another case is, boy asks a girl to be his girlfriend - girl refuses - boy seeks revenge.
They do it on Facebook - there are many Facebook pages that cater service to fulfill such vengeance.
Below is a screenshot of a lovelorn fellow requesting the admin of such a Facebook page to alert other dudes to not fall into his ex-girlfriend's 'snare.'
Translation: Bro, "I need your help.. I have failed in love.. There is a girl who cheated me bro.. I have fallen at her feet, crying and begging her not to leave me but she walked out on me bro.. After that only I came to know that she is no 1 'vandi aka vehicle' (in case you are wondering what is vandi, it is a slang word accorded to a girl who is suspected to be promiscuous or have been 'rode' by many) .. One week, one person.. My heart is broken bro.. I have wasted a lot of money on her bro.. Please post her photo and alert our friends bro.. I don't want her to cheat others too bro.. Can you help me out bro?"
Isn't the above plainly sick? Is this love? No, it is an uncivilized thing to do - pure character assassination. If he really loves the girl, he should protect her, not humiliate her.
Now, let's take a look how the admin of such pages feature such 'innocent' pleas on behalf of the ditched guys.
The first guy is asking for the girl in the picture's mobile phone number and you can see the rest for yourselves, how they are shamelessly commenting on a public platform.
You may say ask, how to justify the girl's actions? Let me ask you back:
She raped the guys uh? She stole the guy's money uh?
Nope, both parties were willing and EQUALLY responsible for what they did with MUTUAL CONSENT and while the guys are left off the hook, all the guilt and maliciousness are piled on the girls. How fair is that?
It takes two to tango folks.
For guys, if your newly paired up angel asks you to buy her this and that, take the cue that she is a Devil who wears Prada bought by your money and do what you need to do. (Dump her! Duh!) Why do you let her burn a hole in your pocket and then leave you after you got penniless and then you whine to the admins of such pages to get back at her? It doesn't take a rocket scientist to identify a money motivated girl - common sense would suffice.
For girls, if your newly paired angel talks about laying you down after only a week after getting into the relationship, take the cue that he is a wolf in sheep's clothing and dump him! If you have no problem with his want, go ahead after weighing the possible outcome of the act; do err on the safe side.
We have so much exposure thanks to technology and look at what some of us choose to expose. To the guy above, I want to ask, what if your sister is featured on such a page?
Another question begs to be asked here. Only girls ditch guys? Guys marry the first girl they lay a pinky finger on eh? Cheating, gold digging, having an affair while in a relationship are gender blind and some guys are blind to see it.
And, Tamil movies don't help - girls are always depicted as heart breakers and guys would break into a song to heal their broken hearts and this further suffuses the male mindset with the perception that girls have a fetish for breaking the freaking sincerely in love guys' hearts.
Such Facebook pages are online sexual harassment. Salacious guys leave lecherous comments which make any right-minded individual repulsed. It is a platform for some to derive depraved pleasure which is so Dark Age era.
We call ourselves modern and tech savvy - but, modernity is not sleeping around (for both guys and girls) and seeking vengeance and tech is not to demean someone who has hurt you no matter what is the reason.
Modernity is about being aware about what is right and what is not and having conscience when doing anything at all. Use tech to elevate your knowledge and use the knowledge to elevate others with you, not pin one down in blame and blacken their image, in this case, the image of girls.
Revenge is pagan and if some of you still insist to utilize such platforms to get even with your ex-girlfriend, remember that your mother is female too.
Now, let's take a look how the admin of such pages feature such 'innocent' pleas on behalf of the ditched guys.
The first guy is asking for the girl in the picture's mobile phone number and you can see the rest for yourselves, how they are shamelessly commenting on a public platform.
You may say ask, how to justify the girl's actions? Let me ask you back:
She raped the guys uh? She stole the guy's money uh?
Nope, both parties were willing and EQUALLY responsible for what they did with MUTUAL CONSENT and while the guys are left off the hook, all the guilt and maliciousness are piled on the girls. How fair is that?
It takes two to tango folks.
For girls, if your newly paired angel talks about laying you down after only a week after getting into the relationship, take the cue that he is a wolf in sheep's clothing and dump him! If you have no problem with his want, go ahead after weighing the possible outcome of the act; do err on the safe side.
We have so much exposure thanks to technology and look at what some of us choose to expose. To the guy above, I want to ask, what if your sister is featured on such a page?
Another question begs to be asked here. Only girls ditch guys? Guys marry the first girl they lay a pinky finger on eh? Cheating, gold digging, having an affair while in a relationship are gender blind and some guys are blind to see it.
And, Tamil movies don't help - girls are always depicted as heart breakers and guys would break into a song to heal their broken hearts and this further suffuses the male mindset with the perception that girls have a fetish for breaking the freaking sincerely in love guys' hearts.
Such Facebook pages are online sexual harassment. Salacious guys leave lecherous comments which make any right-minded individual repulsed. It is a platform for some to derive depraved pleasure which is so Dark Age era.
We call ourselves modern and tech savvy - but, modernity is not sleeping around (for both guys and girls) and seeking vengeance and tech is not to demean someone who has hurt you no matter what is the reason.
Modernity is about being aware about what is right and what is not and having conscience when doing anything at all. Use tech to elevate your knowledge and use the knowledge to elevate others with you, not pin one down in blame and blacken their image, in this case, the image of girls.
Revenge is pagan and if some of you still insist to utilize such platforms to get even with your ex-girlfriend, remember that your mother is female too.
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