OUR CHILDREN, OUR FUTURE

And is a continual of something positive and it understandably feels good to hear. But is a continual of something negative and understandably feels bad to hear and when it comes to our children, feeling good is the way to go. When kids feel good about themselves and what they are doing, they do more of it, building their self confidence, their judgements of whatever they may come across and their harmonious connection with others. When everything they say, think or do is lowly qualified in some way or other, their anger sours n their anger soars.

This is not to say that children don't need and won't respond to their parents' expectations. They do and will, regardless of whether those expectations are good or bad. When those expectations are constantly and consistently bright and positive and are taught, modeled and expressed, amazing things happen. "I see you made a mistake and i know that you are intelligent enough to figure out what you did wrong and make a better decision next time." Or, "You have been spending hours on that project and I'd love to have you explain it to me." Or, "We work hard for our money and I know you can help make out a way to pay for what you want."

It is not enough just to say we love our children. We live in a time where frustration has grown ferocious and in line with the flux, we can no longer afford to limit love's expression. If we want to tone down the sound of violence in our spawning society, we're going to turn up the volume on noticing, giving laud, guiding and participating in what is righteous and correct with our children.

There is a tribe indigenous to Solomon Island and this specific clan don't chop trees with axes; they simply group around a tree they want to reduce to timber and swear at it in unison. The targeted tree, no matter how robust, would wither and die within two days. Imagine what calling a child with degrading names would bring about to the life that the kid has ahead. 

Denouncing our children would only kill their their spirits and self-sustained inner psyche and it would scar them for life although there are reversible factors called the resiliency and well-adjusting traits of kids, given their plasticity. But no two child is the same n the game of hereditary plays a major role here. Some kids are born hypersensitive, easy mark, introverted and contained not to mention other hurdles that require them to cross oceans of confusion and scale mountains of trepidation to realize their worth. 

Kids belonging to this category shouldn't be singled out; instead, they need to be identified out and as nurturing guardians, adults must play by the cards that are suitable to their needs of dissimilarities and this involves a high degree of action caution and discretion as well as verbal censorship.

As for parents, don't bring work stress home. Leave it at the doorstep just as you slip out from your footwear and pick it up the next time you leave for work. As for the non complacency at home or your spouse, don't take out pent up anger on your kids. Temper needs heaps of controlling and only then you can take your children into control. Castigating kids at will is regrettable; you will be chock-a-block with remorse at upcoming times. Don't let our future legacy make a heart-sinking, painful journey through all round avoidable disdain, morbidity n humiliation.

Kids nowadays have much more brilliance, advancement and natural programming, owing to vast mass media access and due exposure.

Parenthood is a test of character and in this era, even more so. There is no single, perfect formulation concerning child upbringing but physical and ill-spoken punitive methods are definitely verified as no nos. Enjoy life's simple pleasures with your brood and teach them to find good things in bad things and the value of virtues. Children mirror their raisers so set a praiseworthy example; it doesn't have to be a paragon. 

Encourage children to explore their creativity and don't be stingy at forwarding words of laud to their smallest accomplishments and you'll witness miracles unfold from them. You'll be awed.

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