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And is a continual of something positive and it understandably
feels good to hear. But is a continual of something negative and understandably
feels bad to hear and when it comes to our children, feeling good is the way to
go. When kids feel good about themselves and what they are doing, they do more
of it, building their self confidence, their judgements of whatever they may
come across and their harmonious connection with others. When everything they
say, think or do is lowly qualified in some way or other, their anger sours n
their anger soars.
This is not to say that children don't need and won't respond to
their parents' expectations. They do and will, regardless of whether those
expectations are good or bad. When those expectations are constantly and
consistently bright and positive and are taught, modeled and expressed,
amazing things happen. "I see you made a mistake and i know that you are
intelligent enough to figure out what you did wrong and make a better decision
next time." Or, "You have been spending hours on that project and I'd
love to have you explain it to me." Or, "We work hard for our money
and I know you can help make out a way to pay for what you want."
It is not enough just to say we love our children. We live in a
time where frustration has grown ferocious and in line with the flux, we can no
longer afford to limit love's expression. If we want to tone down the sound of
violence in our spawning society, we're going to turn up the volume on
noticing, giving laud, guiding and participating in what is righteous and
correct with our children.
There is a tribe indigenous to Solomon Island and this specific
clan don't chop trees with axes; they simply group around a tree they want to
reduce to timber and swear at it in unison. The targeted tree, no matter how
robust, would wither and die within two days. Imagine what calling a child with
degrading names would bring about to the life that the kid has ahead.
Denouncing our children would only kill their their spirits and self-sustained
inner psyche and it would scar them for life although there are reversible
factors called the resiliency and well-adjusting traits of kids, given their
plasticity. But no two child is the same n the game of hereditary plays a major
role here. Some kids are born hypersensitive, easy mark, introverted and
contained not to mention other hurdles that require them to cross oceans of
confusion and scale mountains of trepidation to realize their worth.
Kids
belonging to this category shouldn't be singled out; instead, they need to be
identified out and as nurturing guardians, adults must play by the cards that
are suitable to their needs of dissimilarities and this involves a high degree
of action caution and discretion as well as verbal censorship.
As for parents, don't bring work stress home. Leave it at the
doorstep just as you slip out from your footwear and pick it up the next time
you leave for work. As for the non complacency at home or your spouse, don't take
out pent up anger on your kids. Temper needs heaps of controlling
and only then you can take your children into control. Castigating kids at will
is regrettable; you will be chock-a-block with remorse at upcoming times. Don't
let our future legacy make a heart-sinking, painful journey through all round
avoidable disdain, morbidity n humiliation.
Kids nowadays have much more brilliance, advancement and natural
programming, owing to vast mass media access and due exposure.
Parenthood is a
test of character and in this era, even more so. There is no single, perfect
formulation concerning child upbringing but physical and ill-spoken punitive
methods are definitely verified as no nos. Enjoy life's simple pleasures with
your brood and teach them to find good things in bad things and the value of
virtues. Children mirror their raisers so set a praiseworthy example; it
doesn't have to be a paragon.
Encourage children to explore their creativity
and don't be stingy at forwarding words of laud to their smallest
accomplishments and you'll witness miracles unfold from them. You'll be awed.
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